Standing Up for Yourself


Leah* was always apologizing, even when things were not her fault. “I’m so sorry. Did you want to go in front of me?” She never felt totally at ease with herself, and often felt the need to explain her actions. One day she heard her eleven year old daughter apologizing when someone had interrupted her. She recognized that her daughter had learned this behavior from her.

Leah also saw how her neighbor was full of confidence and knew what she wanted.  She wasn’t going to let anyone get in her way. Leah realized that she lacked this self-esteem, and that she had passed on some of these insecurities to her children. She wanted that to change, so she gave me a call.

When I first met Leah, she was in her early thirties. She was a stay at home mother with four young children. She lacked self-esteem as a person, a mother, a wife, and in the other roles she had in her life. She found it hard to make phone calls, or insist on her rights, whether it was a taxi-driver unfairly charging her, in a government office or even her children’s school. Her husband, who was successful, kept trying to encourage her to feel better about herself.

We began with activities designed to improve Leah’s self-image, while simultaneously introducing some “me” time into Leah’s week. Leah began to understand that in order to be a positive role-model for her children, she needed to give herself some respect.

This was a challenge. For the past 12 years, Leah had always had a child in tow. We worked together to help her rediscover herself and what she liked.

Slowly but surely a new Leah began to emerge. She began to understand and appreciate herself a little more. She discovered that she enjoyed being out in nature, and especially loved flowers. She could actually imagine herself working with flowers sometime in the future when her youngest would start gan. She was finding direction for herself.

Her husband began to notice the changes in Leah, especially when she stopped apologizing so often! But what excited her most was seeing her daughter stand up for herself when she felt her friend hadn’t treated her fairly.

If you, like Leah, are lacking in self-confidence, then give me a call today to arrange a free first consultation. Call me on 054-482-9815 or email me at helenabelesz@gmail.com.

On a personal note, this will be my last article in Bizness magazine for the time being . I would like to say a big thank you to Bizness magazine as they have helped me on this journey to becoming a successful Life Coach. I have had the pleasure of being able to reach out to thousands of women every month and I hope that my articles have been helpful.

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*Not her real name and all identifying features have been changed.





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